Today was day 3 with the boys...it's getting easier and easier for them to be with us..I think. The first day both boys came in and were fine, played and we had about 25 minutes with them.. Max was sleepy and it seemed that Roman remembered Stephen's watch from our first vist. Yesterday was tougher .. Max was still a little sleepy and confused and Roman was plain scared!!! He came into the room and took one look at us and started to cry .. he didn't want much to do with us, well until he saw the books and puzzles and then he warmed up some. Max is still confused but is okay to be picked up and cuddled and will play with the toys after some time. Today, Roman came into the room and was excited to see us and went right for his puzzles! Max was a little more scared, cried but again was okay when I picked him up. He's more aprehensive of Stephen but will go to him eventually. Today's visit was short and tomorrow when we vist the social worker will be coming with us to "observe" us as a family and see how we are all getting along. NO PRESSURE THERE!!
I was a little nervous about our visit yesterday ... I think there is so much going on for these two little guys and in a few weeks what will be very exciting for us is going to be DAMN scary for them. I know they will adjust but I just worry about there feelings and what they think is going on. I just keep thinking of my friend Amy's words of wisdom to just get them home and then we can begin to bond and adjust as a family... it breaks my heart to see them cry and looking so scared and we will do all we can to help them and have them feel safe with us.
Here's a picture of some Yekaterinburg snow ... I'm going to bring it home to hopefully use when we baptize them!
And here's one from our day with them today ... you can't really see their cute faces but you can see how big they have gotten!
11 comments:
Christine,
It sounds like you're doing great with them. Yes, it's a confusing and scary time for them, but they have you to get them through it and you are ready and prepared. It's great that you have gotten to see them every day so far. That is great!
--JGC
Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and hoping all goes well....Good Luck and safe traveling!!! Can't wait to see you all together as a family!
Colleen
You're apartment looks great - especially that bathtub/shower! What a neat idea to capture the snow in the bottle. Looks like the boys were enjoying their time with you!
It sounds like things are going well. What a great idea about the snow. I wouldn't worry about the social worker visiting. I think it is more of a "for the books" thing. Our social worker was only there for a few minutes and was very nice. It is a confusing time for the boys but they will be ok. YOu'll be amazed at how quickly they will settle in once you get home. This in-between phase is the tough part. Keep up the good work!
Melissa
They are so cute!!! I am very happy for you guys!!!!!
Nancy (aka "adoptingmom")
PS--I have a question about your apartment--- you said there is no storage---does that mean no closet too? Its really no big deal---but just strange since the apartment looks very nice---you'd think there'd be a dresser somewhere!
LOVE the snow idea. It is scarey at first but it is amazing how quick they will adjust. Love the pictures good luck with the social worker I am sure it will go fine. Will yo be able to visit during the 10 day appeal period??
I second loving the snow idea! Wish I would have thought about that... :)
Hey, what room are you guys in with the couch? I thought we saw every inch of #6 after being there everyday for 4 weeks but apparently, we missed that one!
As for the boys, there may be some challenging times in which they push one of you away and favor the other parent. It's tough to see and endure but in time, both boys will feel comfy with mom and dad once they really start to know your roles.
Hang in there ~ you're doing great...and we love reading the updates!
~Laura :)
Hi Christine,
You are both doing a great job with the boys. Your approach is perfect, remembering how they must be feeling, but loving them like heck anyway.
I love the snow idea, your apartment looks so cozy!
Keep doing what you are doing, and they will come around in no time!
thinking about you all, and sending you well wishes and hugs!
Adrian
Christine, Stephen,
They are scared now, but with you guys around they will quickly settle down and realize how lucky they are.. Wait till they hear Happy and Lucy's voices! That will make them laugh!!!
EC
Aw, so sweet. Sounds like you are doing great with them. And worrying about their feelings and adjustment just shows that you are a great mom! Looking forward to more updates...hugs...Lori & Rachel...
Congratulations, I am so happy for both of you. It will take some time but they will be fine. The boys have a lot of change going on in their life. You will both be great parents and will love them so much They are adorable and will adjust faster than you can imagine.
Take Care
PC
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